Right Lessons from a Modern Dating Class

Last week, I had the pleasure of attending a dating etiquette class at The Plaza, where I had the opportunity to learn about social mores and manners. As a 20something who has experienced the demoralizing nature of dating, I was curious about this class that promised to teach the right way to approach it. Founded and directed by Myka Meier, Beaumont Etiquette(opens in new tab) offers a contemporary finishing program that is based on Western etiquette but also takes into account the dynamics of today's global society. With an added online chat feature, the class becomes even more accessible and interactive for participants.

Dating Dos and Don'ts: Tips for a Successful First Date

Always Let your Date Open the Door for You

It doesn't mean the person has bad manners just because they reserved the right to not open your door or they forget to pull out your chair a few times. If they've been respectful in other ways, keep it all in perspective. "If these things are important to you, however, you should tell your prospective partner," says Dr. Perry.

Follow their lead

Contrary to some backwards beliefs, you don't have to allow your date to dominate the conversation or dictate your every move. If there's a topic you're passionate about or something you disagree with, speak up and let your personality shine through.

Don't Overshare

It is important for people to learn more about who you are, and it is also important not to overshare early on. Oversharing can be off-putting, uncomfortable, and may be a sign of a trauma response. If you find yourself frequently oversharing on dating apps or social media.

Take Care of the Transportation

When you are the one inviting, you have to make sure that the person has with what to get to that location and back home safe. So if you are a bit unsure of what to say and scared in the unlikely case that you hit the jackpot with a Feminist on Steroids just go for especially if you plan to have some drinks and wouldn’t drive, ask in advance if it would be ok to send an Uber to pick the person up so they do not have to drive.

Trust your Gut

“You always know when something isn't what it’s pretending to be, and you’re entertaining it only because it’s right in front of you. If you put a blind eye on red flags, trust me when I say, those exact red flags are going to be the reason you break up later on.

Recognize Green Flags

A few telltale signs that this special someone might be a keeper: “When your partner remembers small details about you, like your favorite drink, or your family member’s names and their stories. When you feel like you can count on him in those situations when you need someone reliable.

Be Present and Attentive

Talking about yourself can only get you so far. If you want a fool-proof strategy toward creating a pleasing first impression, consider talking less and paying attention to your date. You may not realize it, but people are naturally drawn to those who make them feel important and interesting.

Take it Easy

While it’s true that you’re dating to find a romantic partner eventually, it doesn’t mean that your first date is the beginning of a new relationship. For this reason, you may want to avoid being overly touchy or clingy. Using pet names or terms of endearment is also a huge no-no. Keep in mind that relationships take time to develop.

Keep Commitments

Casual involvements can sometimes feel like they’re lower in priority. You might make plans with someone but lose interest before the date, especially if someone else asks you out. It’s common to feel tempted by a “better offer,” but consider how you’d feel if the same thing happened to you.